My Place of Clarity - And How You Can Find Yours!
All photos taken by Holly Randall
Sometimes life and people and all manner of situations can cause you to feel stressed, anxious and generally unhappy. When I feel like this, I get flightly, I need to distance myself from the situation to gain clarity. For this, I always get myself to, what I call, my place of clarity.
That one place where everything feels easier. Where thoughts feel lighter, my mind becomes less cluttered, and decisions become less tricky to make. If, like me, you can’t think with your entire life on top of you and you need somewhere to get away, then you maybe you should find a place of clarity too. I think it’s important for everyone to have one. If you’ve already found yours then I guess you can turn around and pick another article to read. That or skim through my story to discover my place. For those of you who don’t, I’ll let you in on the secret of finding your place of clarity.
First of all, it’s important to know that a place of clarity is different from a ‘happy place.’ Your ‘happy place’ tends to be a state of mind, whereas a place of clarity is an actual location, somewhere that, simply put, gives you clarity.
My Place of Clarity:
For me, my place has always been the easiest decision in the world. It is, and will always be, the sea. Any beach, anywhere in the world. If there’s an ocean, for me, there is clarity. Many of my favourite memories have happened at the beach, the water makes me calm and the whole atmosphere makes my mind clearer than any other place.
Huffington Post did a study into why being near the ocean made people so calm (it also helps with creativity, those those of you who, like me, are creatively minded.) They say how “our (humanities) affinity for water is even reflected in the near-universal attraction to the colour blue.”
Marine Biologist Wallace J. Nichols believes that we all have, what he calls, a ‘blue mind.’ A state of mind that is triggered when we’re near water. Our brains are hardwired to react to water positively, being near it can calm us and increase our innovation and heal what is broken.
This is why the beach and the ocean is my place of clarity.
How To Find Your Place of Clarity:
It’s the easiest answer in the world – you look. And the answer? It’s the place that makes you happiest. Is there somewhere that you can only associate happy memories with. Somewhere that makes you feel better just by thinking of going. Where is that place for you?
Reader’s Digest did a study that revealed that places, as opposed to objects, caused the brain to get the most excited.
Demonstrating that a place of clarity works better than objects or materials possessions. They also did two interviews on volunteers, one interview at home and one at their place of clarity, and according to their results, the places of clarity evoked feelings of belonging, physical and emotional safety and an intense internal pull to the place.
So places of clarity work, especially for people like me, who can’t really seem to achieve the whole concept of a mental ‘happy place.’ I have never really embraced mindfulness as much as other people - I know it is an incredibly popular notion. So a place of clarity is a good second place. You can’t get there instantly like a happy place but it works equally as well.
So there you have it. Simply find the place that makes you happiest and go there. I promise it will give you clarity and the perfect amount of headspace.
Stay Perfect, Messy People